As both my husband and I are currently under-employed, we are spending quite a bit of time together at home. This is good and bad: good, because we are interacting a lot every day, and that’s great for our relationship; but bad, because we are in the middle of a shift from mom-at-home to dad-at-home, and we haven’t got our roles figured out yet.
Today, I am writing this at a café (taking a break from work-related study), and my husband is cooking the dinner, putting the laundry on, taking the kids to school, and looking after our toddler. Tomorrow is a new day to negotiate.
Have you had to re-define your work or home roles with your “significant other”? How did you do it?
2 comments:
Hi Penny,
I've been wanting to comment on several of your entries, but have just had the time to really sit down and do so. I wanted to comment on this one because it REALLY resonated with me. My husband and I are church planters. We planted a church in Chattanooga, TN. about 2 1/2 years ago and his office is in our home. I love the fact that he's so close and that if I need him, I can call on him. And it's also very nice to have a break once in a while when needed! However, it has really been a major transition to adjust to who is doing what around here. we have one son and sometimes, I don't even feel needed around here. I like having "a job" and keeping our son is supposed to be mine! Don't get me wrong, he is busy writing sermons, holding meetings with staff members, visiting congregants, etc, but sometimes it just feels like we're in each other's way, you know? We've had this conversation many times.
With all that said, I want you to know that I feel that he's the best man and greatest father in the world. Wouldn't trade him for anything! But it has been a major adjustment and one thing we're still trying to figure out!
Thanks for posting and listening!
You're welcome Selina May! Lovely to hear from you :-)
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