I know, I know, everywhere you go, everything you read, tells you that your spouse ‘should be’ your best friend. And maybe for you, that’s not quite the case? Relax.
I believe the marriage relationship is totally unique. It can be a lot like friendship, but it’s not exactly the same. My husband has a uniquely intimate knowledge of me, based on time together under the same roof. My husband is also uniquely committed to our relationship. Therefore, he has the privilege of speaking into my life to encourage, or to give me a verbal ‘boot up the bum’ when needed.
But he and I both know that if we get too critical, our relationship is damaged, and although we can try to pretend it didn’t happen, or we didn’t mean it, we have learned from experience that causing each other pain means putting in the effort to heal the wounds. Unlike other friendships, the option of walking away when hurt just doesn’t exist.
What do you think? Are you ‘best friends’ with your spouse? Does that idea make you cringe inside?
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