Asking for help is something that I am only just learning to do.
When I got married at the advanced age of 30, I was astonished to discover that my dear husband couldn’t and didn’t want to read my mind. Of course, this caused much resentment and emotional pain for years, until I started following his exasperated requests to ask him for what I wanted. When I started doing this, I was astonished to discover that it actually reduced quite a bit of the emotional upheaval I had been putting myself through.
I am still foolish enough to get upset when my DH does not automatically do the things I consider obvious, but in truth, he is much better now at asking me what I need help with, or suggesting things that he can do, or even (gasp!) proactively doing something that is routine (like starting the kid’s bath).
This was not an overnight change for DH, or for me, but when I take time to consider how we have changed in our ten years together, it is clear to see.
Do you struggle to ask for help? Why (or why not)?
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